Dating a powerful man
Dating a powerful man
At the top of the stairs that night, the PR who had organised the party whispered the name of each new arrival, so he could greet them like long lost buddies.
Such self-made men are so terrified of being poor again that they are constantly driven to make more and more money. While they don't like spending it 'unwisely', by which I mean on other people, they think nothing of splashing out, if it is for a good reason - such as showing off their status, for example. When he bought a house in the exclusive Hamptons near New York last year, he wanted to make some new best friends and threw a bash.
“I don’t think this is superficial at all,” says Jacqueline Whitmore, the founder of The Protocol School of Palm Beach.
“Speaking as a woman, most women of a certain age want security, but we also want someone who doesn’t look, act and dress like a troll.
It must have cost a fortune, but in his mind everything was an investment, and this case the return was worth it. While men desire women who look like Meg Ryan, recent studies confirm that women are attracted to men who look as if they have wealth, or the ability to acquire it. His house had one of those home cinema screens and a wall of DVDs.
Think of all the new contacts he had made, and how he could show off his impressive collection of 20th-century art - I counted at least six Cy Twomblys that evening, a couple of Picassos and if I am not mistaken there was even a Rauschenberg in the loo - subtext: I am so rich I don't care where I put my paintings. Super-mates, whether the stick thin model or rich man, are not accessible to all, which is why when one of them invites you to dinner, you feel as if you are being allowed into a special club. I used to spend whole weekends watching the entire Doris Day collection in his sitting room, which was three times the size of my entire flat.
A woman must uphold her standards.” But, she adds, character is just as important.
“Life is too short to settle for someone who doesn’t treat you well.
Men with higher incomes showed stronger preferences for women with slender bodies, while women with higher incomes preferred men who had a steady income or made similar money, according to a new survey of 28,000 heterosexual men and women aged between 18 and 75.
Women felt it was more important that their partner made at least as much money as they did (46% versus 24% of men) and had a successful career (61% versus 33% of men), while men favored a slender body (80% versus 58% of women).
Neither gender may be shallow, he says, but may be making their choice of mate because of millions of years of evolution.
“Female bower birds select males with the nicest nest, and in many insects, the female selects a male who offers her a nice gift of prey he has captured,” he says.
So why did I not run away as soon as I found out he was an egotistical maniac? Besides, he was a welcome relief from all the wimpy new men I had been dating.