Teenage girls dating old men
Teenage girls dating old men
Khloe brought up Amber’s past as a teenage stripper and essentially told Amber to stay her in lane, and Amber replied with a heavy dose of snark.
I have no interest in sitting here and saying that your heart palpitations for an older guy you might be dating aren’t real. But when we’re talking about a relationship between a teenager and an adult who is significantly older–yeah, not just some 16-year-old dating an 18-year-old–there is often something weirdly fraudulent about it.
A relationship that is fraught with dubious legality and secrecy might sound dope and it might very well be fun, but you might find yourself missing out on some of the more normal aspects of a relationship that isn’t problematic.
Also, as annoying and irritating as this question is, it holds some legitimate weight: Why is a dude in grad school interested in dating a teenage girl?
No, and at Gurl we’re really not interested in demonizing or shaming girls who make the decision to engage in these relationships. (By the way, if you’re a teen girl and you’re still debating being in a relationship with on older dude, check this: A friend of mine, Amy-Rose of Rookie Mag, was 15-years-old when she was dating a 28-year-old professor and she wrote an awesome piece about what it was like.
But as your honorary big sisters who have been there and done that, we’re definitely here to side eye the hell out of older dudes who have an explicit interest in dating teen girls. If you’re interested in a real perspective that doesn’t insult your intelligence, definitely check it out because it is straight up fascinating.
This isn’t denying the awesomeness of teenage girls, but rather fairly questioning the motivation involved.
If you’ll agree that there is a power dynamic involved in interactions between adults and teenagers, why would that go out the window in a romantic relationship, especially when we bring in the gender component (older man, younger woman)? Also, while an older guy might seem way more on your maturity level than the bros in your English class who only wear gym shorts, is this older guy necessarily on the same maturity level of other women their age?If they aren’t, that’s a huge red flag, girl, and says a lot about the dude you’re dealing with.As a young woman in my early ’20s I can tell you that there are dudes my age (sadly) who aren’t mature whatsoever and can’t date a woman their age to save their life.Believe it or not in another two years you’re going to have the same reaction (it’s normal, seriously).While we’re always growing and maturing and learning new things about ourselves, this is a lot more pronounced in our teens than as adults.We’ve touched this topic intrigued to do something that is seen as a little “bad? You don’t want to date dopey dudes your age who still think that fart jokes are the height of humor.